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Improve Self Confidence
“You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~ Christopher Brown
What Is Self Esteem?
Self esteem refers to what we think about ourselves, how confident we feel, and how much we value and respect who we are and what we have to offer. While it’s normal for self esteem to fluctuate from time to time, constant low self esteem can cause problems in our daily lives and in our relationships with other people.
Common Signs of Low Self Esteem
Those who struggle with low self-esteem often experience self-doubt, social isolation, a lack of confidence, and feelings of worthlessness and shame. Another common feature of low self-esteem is negative self-talk. People with low self-esteem tend to compare themselves to others and often talk about themselves in a way that puts them down and criticizes their own self-worth. It can also be difficult for people with low self-esteem to acknowledge their efforts and be proud of their achievements.
How Do We Develop Self Esteem?
Self-esteem tends to develop in childhood and can be based on the messages we receive from significant people in our lives (i.e. parents, teachers, friends, bullies). These messages whether positive or negative become ingrained in our belief system and influence the way we think about ourselves and about the world around us. Common narratives include believing we’re not “good enough, pretty enough, or smart enough,” “that no one will ever love us,” that “we are never going to amount to anything,” and that “we should have known better, now we will never succeed.” Whether you are struggling with feelings of worthlessness, shame, or low self-worth, we can work together to explore the negative messages keeping you stuck and co-author a new narrative that supports a positive and healthier sense of self. While we can easily get caught in the negative messages we’ve been taught, to improve self esteem we need to hear the new narrative over and over again before it becomes our truth. You are the author of your own story and you deserve to be loved and feel proud of the person you are! Contact Holding Hope to schedule a free 15-minute phone consult and get started today.
Watch psychologist and researcher, Brené Brown, speak about the “Power of Vulnerability:”